Music, pics...

A couple days ago I downloaded picasa to create an online photo site.
When I opened it up, it began pulling all of Topher's pictures,
videos, and music. I thought it was like costco's photo site or
shutterfly where you select the pictures you want to be uploaded.
Instead it pulled all his stuff! For this reason, I began to delete
all the folders in picasa. Not knowing that it deleted it from his
hard drive. This wasn't discovered until last night when he went to
play his music on Itunes and it was unable to locate his songs.

I told him what I did and speculated that it was from me deleting the
folders from picasa. He was so upset with me and made it clear to
never download anything without his consent or knowledge of it. I was
very apologetic and promised that I wouldn't download anything
anymore.

This happened right before he had to go to work and so he had very
little time to try and restore the content that was deleted.

This was so distressful for him because of the years of downloading
the music as well as paying for it. Not to mention, the pictures he
had taken in the past before I came into the picture, and any videos
from the past are gone.

He understands that I didn't deliberately do this and it was purely an
accident. And I understand that this is a burden and intrusive to have
removed his personal stuff and his past items. For this reason, it
causes him to be disappointed and upset with me.

Given the surprise distress I caused him he chose to smoke to aleviate
the stress while at work. I will never be able to relate to that
choice because I'm a non smoker but only thing I can do is to try to
put myself in his shoes and supprt and understand. He's bright and he
is fully aware of the consequences of smoking. Only he has the power
and control to quit. I just have to remember that he knows how i feel
about smoking and that he knows how bad it is to his health and that
it's his choice to smoke knowing that it can lead to lung cancer.
Hopefuly I can instill confidence and faith in him that he is capable
of quitting 100%.

He is working on restoring what I had removed and I'm hoping that it
all, at least his music is fully restored. I feel awful and want to
try and help but he told me that he would handle it. So I shall step
back.