Our relationship (my letter to him)
the phone. After this letter, he called me from work and was not
happy. He said that my disappointment in him dominated my apology and
from there I got offended and we argued back and forth. He finally
got so frustrated that he said that we need space and I asked if I
should move out and he said yes. To make sure he meant what he said, I texted him right away to make
sure that this was what he wanted and it wasn't. So we worked things
out in which is documented in our text messages. The letter below was
sent to him on April 24th. > In this letter to you, I would like to address 2 things. One, about
> our phone conversation last night and secondly, about today's
> predicament.
>
> I want to begin by saying I'm sorry about last night if I came off a
> bit rude or attitudish. I was a bit startled when you weren't in the
> room by the time I "thought' you went to the bathroom. My questions
> nor my behavior didn't depict the fact that I wanted your presence in
> bed to put me at ease. So when I called you I was a bit upset already
> because you weren't in the room and I speculated that you were outside
> smoking so it affected the way I spoke to you. So I'm sorry and I
> wish I had just put my frustrated emotion aside and asked you when you
> were coming back into the room to cuddle with me. Because ultimately
> that was all that I wanted and the reason why I called you.
>
> I know you were a bit disappointed because it was your day off and you
> wanted to spend some quality time with me without me falling asleep so
> early. I don't know why I've been extremely tired the past week and I
> wish it wasn't especially on your day off because I would really like
> to spend the time with you too...talking, cuddling, goofing off,
> watching a movie, or simply going to sleep next to one another. So I
> completely understand your disappointment with my dozing off
> throughtout the night.
>
> As far as cutting off our conversation last night and ending it the way
> it did, I felt that it was very rude of you. It cut off the
> communication between the two of us and put us at a dead end
> situtation. WHether you care or not, I had to go to sleep mad and you
> were left angry to deal with things on your own. I really didn't
> appreciate that and I really hope that this doesn't repeat itself. By
> doing so, it teaches me that it's okay to do so because you did it to
> me. This is unnecessary stress on ourselves and our relationship.
>
> Secondly, regarding my phone call to you earlier this evening, you
> really hurt my feelings today and I feel that I should let you know.
>
> When you asked me on the phone today like "what is your problem" and
> "why can't you be light hearted about things" I had my feelings hurt
> and was unable to take things lightly by that point. You hurt my
> feelings because even the way we left things last night (that is, the
> conversation left unfinished) I still called you after work and wanted
> to find out if I could pick you up some dinner. I still thought of
> you. So excuse my attitude or behavior but I was hurt and extrememly
> disappointed by the fact that you didn't even consider calling or
> texting me to let me know that you made dinner arrangements by going
> to Auntie Georgie's for dinner without me. In turn it puts me under
> the impression that you didn't think of me. You didn't consider
> getting or preparing food for us. Instead you chose to feed yourself,
> as if I am not a part of this relationship. I know I don't ask of you to feed me but it would be really nice if you took the initiative and thought about feeding me too. Especially in a time like this, love should
> overshadow our anger. Love is action and your action didn't depict
> love. Just because we had an argument last night doesn't mean that we
> should treat each other any differently. My feelings were hurt and in
> turn made me behave the way I did. Not to mention, I didn't eat all
> day since breakfast and had a really busy day. So it just really put
> a damper on things and in turn disappointment.
>
> I appreciate the fact that you texted me afterwards, but I was driving
> and I was uable to text back. Not to mention, I didn't know how to
> get to Auntie Georgie's house. If you really wanted me to be there, a
> personal phone call would have been really nice and perhaps directions
> to her house. Even a sincere apology or an appreciation for me
> thinking of you for dinner would have meant a lot to me. I know you
> said that you were sorry, but it was a pretty lousy way of saying your
> sorry. ANd I know that you would not accept that apology from me. I
> know that under the circumstance since last night and then my phone
> call made things seem like I was having a problem with you, it still
> would have been nice to have a conversation to touch base so that it
> wouldn't be so awkward to meet you at Auntie Georgie's house.
>
> Again, these are my feelings and I thought I should share them with
> you. I hope you understand why I decided not to meet you at Auntie
> Georgie's house.
>
> I don't know what your thoughts regarding what I mentioned above, but
> I hope that I get a response from you and I hope that we can work out
> our simplest problems. THat is me hearing you out and you hearing me
> out. I just hope that we can become better at making decisions and
> the way we react to one another. Making choices that is in the best
> interest for our relationship.
>
> I know that I will always do my best in our relationship and if there
> was anything that I do to hurt your feelings, I would want to rectify
> it and ensure that I don't make the same mistakes. And especially to
> make sure your feelings are being met and satisfied by me.
>
> --
> Warm Regards,
>
> Buu
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